Wednesday, March 03, 2010

Poligami

Just want to share this article i received few weeks ago...interesting kan?


Memang betul poligami tu hukum Allah, tapi setakat mana saudara dan spesis2 saudara faham akan maksud hukum ALLAH? Adakah antara di antara saudara yang sudah memeriksa kandungan AL-QURAN, ambil tahu apa yang ALLAH bicarakan tentang poligami?

Mari saya bawakan ayat tersebut ya saudara.

POLIGAMY hanya disebutkan dalam surah AN-NISA

4: 1. O people! be careful of (your duty to) your Lord, Who created you from a single being and created its mate of the same (kind) and spread from these two, many men and women; and be careful of (your duty to) Allah, by Whom you demand one of another (your rights), and (to) the ties of relationship; surely Allah ever watches over you.
4: 2. And give to the orphans their property, and do not substitute worthless (things) for (their) good (ones), and do not devour their property (as an addition) to your own property; this is surely a great crime.
4: 3. And if you fear that you cannot act equitably towards orphans, then marry such women as seem good to you, two and three and four; but if you fear that you will not do justice (between them), then (marry) only one or what your right hands possess; this is more proper, that you may not deviate from the right course.
4: 4. And give women their dowries as a free gift, but if they of themselves be pleased to give up to you a portion of it, then eat it with enjoyment and with wholesome result.
Shakir's Quran Translation

Please read the above ayaat from 1 until 4 and let me explain to you the context of these ayaat and also the polygamy that is mentioned there.

God says,
If you fear that YOU CANNOT ACT EQUITABLY TOWARDS ORPHANS , then marry such women......, 2, 3 and 4
- Any individual who can read will understand this ayat clearly without further translation. Poligamy is only allowed when orphans are involved!

But what happen in the world today esp in the Muslim world?
The religious people simply ignore this - "And if you fear that you cannot act equitably towards orphans" - and only mention "Kahwinlah kamu 2, 3 dan empat….." to justify their sexual needs! How does that make sense?

Al-QURAN adalah pelengkap segala hukum. I think everyone knows that. Don't all that are mentioned in the QURAN complete the polygamy hukum already? IF AND ONLY IF ORPHANS are involved, and because you are afraid that you cannot do just towards them, maka baru lah boleh kahwin lebih dari satu.

There is even a warning by ALLAH!

4:129. Ye will not be able to deal equally between (your) wives, however much ye wish (to do so). But turn not altogether away (from one), leaving her as in suspense. If ye do good and keep from evil, lo! Allah is ever Forgiving, Merciful.
Pickthal's Quran Translation


ALLAH sudah warning. Kamu tak akan berupaya berlaku adil because He knows how humans are! He sets that warning so that MEN would really really consider heavily before marrying another one even if his intention is ONLY to take care of the orphan!


TAPI APA SUDAH JADI SEKARANG?
Lelaki kahwin lebih dari satu kerana………
1) NAFSU SEKS LELAKI MEMANG TINGGI
2) PEREMPUAN TU MUDA DAN CANTIK, BAIK PULAK TUH
3) ISTERI AKU DAH TUA AND CEREWET
4) AKU DAH TAK CINTA ISTERI
5) AKU KAYA, AKU MAMPU
6) AKU BERZINA KARANG, HA! MANA KO NAK?
We so rarely hear, I kahwin lagi sebab nak jaga anak yatim...

And there are thousands of unimaginable reasons given by MEN to justify their acts. How is this called JUSTICE?

Please look at the statistics in Malaysia, how many women were abused and ignored when the husbands decides to re-marry? How many husbands not treating the wives FAIRLY? Women are FORCED to accept polygamy atas nama ISLAM. Women are criticized if we oppose polygamy because polygamy is supposedly a gate to enter 'heaven'. But did they take into account the suffering (trauma, mental stress, heart-broken, disappointment, emotional pain, sometimes even pyhsical abuse) that a woman has to go through? So tell me, how is that JUSTICE?

Please read the QURAN and check for yourself. ALLAH doesn't put POLYGAMY alongside with "HOW TO TAKE CARE OF ORPHANS" in one sentence without any reasons. I invite all of you to STUDY THE QURAN. ALL our answers and doubts can be found there, insyaAllah.

It is when HUMANS take only what they want to suit their needs, the suffering appears regardless (the wives, the kids, the relatives, the community).

Wallahu'alam.

2 comments:

Superstar said...

best!!

CAD For Quantity Surveyor said...

Allah said,

﴿وَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلاَّ تُقْسِطُواْ فِى الْيَتَـمَى فَانكِحُواْ مَا طَابَ لَكُمْ مِّنَ النِّسَآءِ مَثْنَى﴾

(And if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with the orphan girls, then marry (other) women of your choice, two) Allah commands, when one of you is the caretaker of a female orphan and he fears that he might not give her a dowry that is suitable for women of her status, he should marry other women, who are plenty as Allah has not restricted him. Al-Bukhari recorded that `A'ishah said, "A man was taking care of a female orphan and he married her, although he did not desire to marry her. That girl's money was mixed with his, and he was keeping her portion from her. Afterwards, this Ayah was revealed about his case;

﴿وَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلاَّ تُقْسِطُواْ﴾

(If you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly)'' Al-Bukhari recorded that `Urwah bin Az-Zubayr said that he asked `A'ishah about the meaning of the statement of Allah,

﴿وَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلاَّ تُقْسِطُواْ فِى الْيَتَـمَى﴾

(If you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with the orphan girls.) She said, "O my nephew! This is about the orphan girl who lives with her guardian and shares his property. Her wealth and beauty may tempt him to marry her without giving her an adequate dowry which might have been given by another suitor. So, such guardians were forbidden to marry such orphan girls unless they treated them justly and gave them the most suitable dowry; otherwise they were ordered to marry woman besides them.'' `A'ishah further said, "After that verse, the people again asked the Messenger of Allah (about marriage with orphan girls), so Allah revealed the Ayah,

﴿وَيَسْتَفْتُونَكَ فِى النِّسَآءِ﴾

(They ask your instruction concerning the women..) ﴿4:127﴾.'' She said, "Allah's statement in this Ayah,

﴿وَتَرْغَبُونَ أَن تَنكِحُوهُنَّ﴾

(yet whom you desire to marry) ﴿4:127﴾ refers to the guardian who does not desire to marry an orphan girl under his supervision because she is neither wealthy nor beautiful. The guardians were forbidden to marry their orphan girls possessing property and beauty without being just to them, as they generally refrain from marrying them (when they are neither beautiful nor wealthy).''

http://www.islam-universe.com/tafsir_ibn_kathir/4.10417.html